Body Language Can Reveal The Truth About Your Relationship!

The way you fight, hug, make love, and even eat as a couple can
speak volumes about the state of your relationship. Some of us can be
rather oblivious to the oh-so-obvious signs body language can reveal in
those everyday situations inevitably faced by long-term partners. If you
are one of those adorably clueless souls, worry not; we’ve got your
back!

Here
are three everyday situations; read on to discover what your potential
body language during these scenarios can reveal about your relationship:

First Scenario: The “Hello Darling, I’m Home!” Kiss

Good
Signs: Lips that linger just a second too long signals, “I’m glad to
see you and wish we could be doing more of this”. According to LA-based
psychotherapist, Stella Resnick, Ph.D., “People express warmth by
hugging with their full bodies. They press their hearts together to
reestablish their intimacy after spending time apart.”

Warning
Signs: Encountering hard, closed lips is a bad sign; it signifies
tension and a potential evasion of intimacy. Even hugging but keeping
most of your body separated from each other signals obligation and not
intimacy. “Your chest can become concave as your heart literally pulls
away from the other person,” says Dr. Resnick.

Send A More Loving
Message: Yes, your kid is scribbling over your walls while dinner is
burning in the oven but instead of giving an obligatory, distracted kiss
to your partner, try for a conscious kiss and full hug. Following it up
with some generous eye contact would really seal the deal. Remember,
the ‘hello kiss’ will set the tone for the rest of your evening.

Second Scenario: At A Dinner Date

Good
Signs: The signs of a contented couple at a restaurant are truly
universal. They will usually be found sitting catty-corner or
side-by-side, somehow maintain a physical closeness even if they have
their kids on the table with them. If the table happens to be a small
one, then sitting across from each other is also a sign of intimacy.

According
to Martin Lloyd-Elliott, author of Secrets of Sexual Body Language, a
couple in a healthy relationship will continuously acknowledge each
other’s presence with a smile, glance or what experts refer to as an
“eyebrow flash” that Martin deems “a spontaneous signal of positive
recognition.” He continues to explain, “If you don’t flash the other
person, he may feel bad without even knowing why.”

Warning Signs:
Watch out for your “paces”. If you’re still nibbling on your salad while
he’s halfway through dessert then the essential synchronization, that
mirroring movements which are a tell-tale sign of a happy couple, are
missing.

Also, look at the seating arrangement. If your baby is on
a high chair by your side while your partner is on the other side, you
will be spending most of your dinner with your back turned towards your
partner.

Send A More Loving Message: Place the high chair between
you and your partner so that you could feed your baby and watch your
partner simultaneously. Also, go an extra mile. “When you first sit
down, connect with a moment that’s just for the two of you. Take your
husband’s face in your hands and give him a kiss. The loving feelings
you generate in those 30 seconds will last through dinner and way
beyond,” advises Dr. Resnick.

Third Scenario: During An Argument

Good
Signs: When a happy couple fights, their body language is starkly
different to that of an unhappy one. They may appear enraged. However,
they will also look remarkably emotionally engaged. They will make
frequent eye contact while their torsos will generally face each other.
All of which basically signals, “We may be arguing, but I’m not going to
run away. I love you so let’s fix this.” 

Warning Signs: Certain
body language can signify problems in a relationship that runs deeper
than the crux of your fight. According to Dr. Resnick, “If your husband
is baring his teeth or jabbing his finger at your chest, he may be
unconsciously trying to threaten you into submission — even if he
doesn’t actually touch you.” Also, watch out for signs such as if your
partner turns their body away from you, has darting eyes or a glazed
expression as all of these indicate he/she has stopped paying attention
and just wants to escape.

Other damaging signs are when a partner
looks down their nose at you, rolls their eyes and crosses their arms
during a fight. These subconsciously signal: “I’m not going to listen to
what you have to say, because it’s worthless.”

But perhaps the
worst of them all is when you’re in a fight, but your partner shows
signs of disinterest, this signifies that they aren’t emotionally
engaged at all.

Send A More Loving Message: If you really care
about resolving the argument then your body language must indicate to
your partner that you love them and you’re actually listening. To
achieve this align your body leaning in towards your partner, let your
arms hang around you and nod as they talk so that they truly feel heard.
If your partner isn’t showing signs of listening to you, gently draw
him/her in by holding their hand or touching their arm until they make
eye contact.

Happy relationships aren’t just made; they have to be
worked towards. Be proactive and preserve the love you and your partner
share. Best of luck!

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