10 Ugly Things Awful Husbands Do To Their Wives

OK, so you aren’t an awful husband.
But there are some pretty awful things you definitely don’t want
creeping into your marriage. Your wife deserves better than a husband
with any of these 10 ugly habits.

1. Critical

Please
watch yourself and don’t get caught in the trap of criticizing your
wife. Choose to see the good in your wife. Compliment her on all the
things she is doing right. Next time you find yourself wanting to tell
her something you don’t like about her, switch it around and pay her a
sincere compliment. She will love it.

2. Controlling

Believe
it or not, you aren’t always right. And your beautiful wife is actually
very good at making her own decisions (and typically she makes very
good decisions). So stop feeling like you need to control where she’s
going, what she’s doing, how much she’s spending and more. Instead of
stressing about that, work together as a team, encouraging and
supporting each other. Let your wife be her own person, and give her
wings to fly.

3. Treats you like an object

Please,
husbands! Your wife isn’t an object. She is your wife, your best friend
and your queen. She deserves your utmost respect, especially when it
comes to sexual intimacy. Always respect her and her body and work on
establishing emotional connection and trust before thinking about
sharing sexual intimacy with your wife. Sex can be the most unifying,
fulfilling and beautiful thing in marriage when you both treat each
other respectfully.

4. Doesn’t give you the time of day

You
have a wife. You lucky guy. Please don’t forget about her. Don’t be too
busy to call her, text her or recognize her when she walks in the room.
The next time you see her, give her a big hug and tell her you love
her. Let her know she is your top priority by putting her first — ahead
of work, time with your buddies, or watching that game. Sit on the couch
and talk to her. Tell her about your day, your thoughts, your worries,
and your funny experiences. Beware, you may find that sparks suddenly
start flying around like crazy.

5. Uses crude or dirty language

Husbands, come on. You
aren’t teenage boys anymore (and even then, bad language wasn’t really
cool). Watch your mouth. Work to cut the swearing habit, and remove
crude, rude and dirty language from your vocabulary. You may be amazed
at all the other words available for use in expressing your feelings.
Your wife deserves to hear words that a gentleman would speak, not a
raga-muffin. Buy yourself a dictionary. OK, not really, but try some new
words. Your wife will be tickled pink and others will think you’re much
more intelligent.

6. Views pornography

This
is one sure way to ruin your marriage, your life and your future.
Simply put, don’t view pornography and let your eyes linger everywhere
you go. Look inward and decide to choose a better path. If you are
entrenched in the ugly habit of pornography, seek out professional help
(there are many great resources to turn to). Find a counselor who can
help you begin the process of becoming free from this addiction. You
have to want change for yourself and for those you love. So dig deep and
decide what kind of life you really want.

7. Has too high of expectations

The
last thing your sweet wife needs to hear is that she doesn’t measure up
to your unrealistic expectations. Please don’t compare your wife’s
body, budgeting skills, or parenting skills to so-and-so down the
street. Your comparisons will, over time, crush her self-esteem. Decide
to be kind, to be patient, to be forgiving and to be flexible. The more
you emphasize all of her positive qualities, the more she will naturally
start living up to those positive compliments and become the woman you
describe, and more.

8. Doesn’t help out around the house

Seriously?
You may bring in half the income, or all of it, but that doesn’t mean
you can chill on the couch while your wife cleans, tidies and washes
dishes day-in and day-out. Kick it up a notch and offer to help out.
Clean the toilet (yes, the one you use every day), carry in the
groceries or unload the dishwasher (oh, the horror). You and your wife
are a team and ought to work side by side creating the home of your
dreams.

9. Loses his temper often

You
are a grown man. Yelling at your wife is not appropriate, effective or
helpful. Hitting is completely off limits. Rage, lashing out, throwing
things and threatening are all forms of abuse. You can learn to control
your temper. You can learn to respond calmly and with love. As you do,
your wife will feel safe with you and love being around you.

10. Lies and cheats

If
you think you can sneak off with that babe from work and your wife will
never know, then you’re kidding yourself and in for a very rude
awakening. And honestly, even if your wife never found out, it’s still
wrong. Don’t throw away everything that is truly meaningful for a
fleeting moment of pleasure. Choose to be honest. Choose to be loyal.
Live up to those promises you made to your bride. She deserves all that,
and more.

Now, if you saw yourself in any of these
ugly habits, don’t beat yourself up. Rather decide to be better and make
changes. Chart a course today that will lead you, and your wife, to
that happily-ever-after marriage you have always wanted.

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